From exchanging glances at each other in the hall to anxiously waiting for them to call, there are so many new feelings that come with having a crush.
A first crush may lead to a first boyfriend, which can be even more exciting. If your friends seem to be falling into relationships and you don’t understand how they are doing it, then we are here to help.
In this article, learn how to get a boyfriend when you are in middle school.
To Date Or Not To Date?
Firstly, it’s important to ask yourself whether or not you actually want to date. Never feel pressured to get a boyfriend just because everyone else is.
Only start dating when you feel ready. It takes a certain number of life skills to successfully date, at any age so focus on developing these before you rush into anything.
1. Be Yourself
The most important rule of dating, at any age and at any time is to be yourself. Never try to ‘fit in’ with the popular crowd or develop interests that you don’t really care about.
The people worth knowing and dating are the people that like you for who you are.
When you are authentically yourself you will attract similar people to you that you will get on with way better than anyone who you are pretending around.
If someone doesn’t like you for who you are, then it’s time to learn how to accept rejection and move on.
2. Understand What You Want
Part of growing up is discovering what you are looking for in a partner. That may sound super grown-up but it’s just a part of dating.
Why not make a list of all the qualities that you’d like to have in a boyfriend? Should he be kind? Smart? Funny? Good at sports?
Rather than just jumping into a relationship with the first guy who offers, be picky. There is no point in settling for less as it won’t make you happy.
Relationships are all about two people coming together to enrich each other’s lives and enjoy their time together.
3. Learn How To Make Conversation
Another important factor to consider when you’re looking for a boyfriend is how good you are at making conversation. Are you too shy to make the first move and start a conversation with them?
Open-ended questions are a great way to get to know someone and encourage conversation.
These are questions that cannot be answered with a ‘yes’ or ‘no’. If you have interesting things to say, try and work them into the conversation to let him know what you’re about.
Having great conversations with someone is the hallmark of a good relationship. You should be able to talk for hours without having to think of things to say when you’re with the right person.
4. Sign Up To Extra Activities
If meeting someone new or interesting is the issue, then sign up for some extracurricular activities to meet people.
These could be school activities or groups outside of school such as sports or hobbies. When you share similar interests with someone, it’s easier to talk to them and get to know them better.
When you’re enjoying yourself in an out of school activity, it can be a more natural way to form a bond with someone as there isn’t as much pressure surrounding you.
It can be awkward and nerve wracking to talk to your crush with friends and other pupils around.
5. Take Pride In Your Appearance
We are definitely not saying you need to look a certain way to get a boyfriend.
There are a few general rules we would encourage anyone to adopt, such as washing your face and brushing your teeth twice a day, showering regularly, and wearing nice scented lotions.
If you feel you want to wear make-up, start off with a little before you graduate to a full face as it can be tough on your skin and is a lot of work.
Sometimes a little mascara and some lip balm can give you all the confidence you need.
Wearing clothes you feel good in is another great way to boost your confidence. When you feel more confident and empowered people will pick up on this and be impressed by you.
It is such a simple trick, but could be one to make you stand out from the crowd.
6. Ask Your Crush To Hang-Out
A final way to level things up from friendship to relationship is to spend time with that special someone one-on-one.
It could just be to hang out as friends at first, this way you can get them alone and learn more about them. If you find you get on really well, then great.
Hanging out away from other people is also a great chance to see more of their personality.
When you hang out, try different activities and games to see how you work together as a team, get along with certain situations and how they behave or react.
7. Be Upfront With Your Feelings
Learning to be upfront about your feelings can be extremely scary but it is something everyone must learn to do.
There is no use playing games and spending hours on end wondering if they like you back, just be upfront and tell them you like them!
The worst that can happen is that they don’t feel the same way. This isn’t ideal but at least you can move on afterwards and you’ll know for sure.
On the other hand, it could be a success and you end up with a boyfriend!
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